How to rebuild confidence in your skills after the worst has happened

How to rebuild confidence in your skills after the worst has happened

The worst thing that can happen in our professional life is losing confidence in ourselves. The opportunities that come our way do not matter if we do not believe that we have skills that are valuable in the market.

Let me tell you a story. I recently worked with a brilliant client. Let’s call him Jorge.

Jorge worked as an expatriate for a large group. He was relocated thanks to his skills, the quality of his work, his efficiency and his dedication.

Despite this great opportunity, the change of environment and culture did not suit him very well. Jorge felt rejected, isolated and unappreciated in regard to his proposals and competencies.

Naturally, after several months of what he called “labor mistreatment” the quality of his work was affected. And so did his confidence in himself and in his profile, despite the brilliant person he is. So he was fired! Not so good for self-esteem!

Now, Jorge’s case is just an example. But there are many people who lose confidence in their skills and in themselves after going through a particular circumstance.

How to solve this?

So, what can be done to get out of this “dark hole” and resurface like the Phoenix bird!:

  1. Reconnect with yourself: discover your own personal values and find out in what way your life presents you with aspects where you fulfill these values
  2. Recover your skills: do a skills analysis with a professional coach. Someone external can help you turn your perspective around and become aware of all the professional, personal and transferable skills that you have
  3. Learn new skills: constant learning makes our brain work and it makes us more flexible. The more you learn, the more tools you count on to face situations, this will make you gain confidence in yourself again.

This is what Jorge did! Today he is renewed. He is in a better position and with a better salary … and decided to stay in the new country. He realized that his abilities did not depend on how his colleagues from different cultures perceived him, but on how he perceived himself!

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How to feel inspired again in your career

How to feel inspired again in your career?

Do you feel like you’re stuck in a rut, as if your professional life was limited to getting up every day to go and come back from a “job”? A job in which you are not even growing. What happened to those wonderful ideas you had about what your career would be like?

You are not the only one who feels like you are walking on a treadmill when thinking about your career; you walk and you walk… but you’re not going anywhere. In fact, we all go through that at some point in our professional lives. The good news is that it is possible to change this, however … there is only one way out of this situation of reluctance, and it is …

To make the decision to change and take action!

That’s right, the key to feeling inspired again in your career is to take action. But, how to take action without knowing where to start?

Good question! I asked myself that same question at some point and my clients do it all the time. Well, I tell you something, you have to start with the most basic, start with yourself.

How to feel inspired again?

The key to building and developing a career that inspires you is to reconnect with yourself and to explore your purpose in life. Yes, it sounds quite spiritual, but that’s the idea. How can you feel motivated to do something if that something is not aligned with you, with what you value most, with what matters most to you? Simply if what you do does not go hand in hand with what you value most, you cannot be inspired for a long time, it is that simple and logical, and it has been that way since the human exists.

So, to change that routine, that feeling of reluctance and lack of growth, it’s time to take the following actions:

  1. Reconcile yourself with your personal values ​​(what is most important in your life, not necessarily the ethical part)
  2. Explore your best qualities and skills
  3. Discover your purpose in life and how you can materialize it
  4. Set your priorities at a personal and professional level

Dare to spend your days doing something more than a “job”, dare to do what inspires you!

Do you want to know more about how to discover your values ​​and purpose to reinvent your career? Then download the free guide on “how to succeed in your career transition”. This content will help you understand the steps to follow to turn your career around

Focus your energy on the right career


Focus your energy on the right career

Did you know that most people spend only 5% of their time doing something they actually love! The average person spends 60% of the day working (which is why is essential to choose the right career), 20% sleeping, another 15% commuting and only 5% doing something they actually love. That 5% means everything for some people, especially for those who do not enjoy what they do for living. For many people it means not seeing their children growing up, not been able to keep healthy habits, not sharing with friends and family and in general not enjoying life.

These frightening statistics show that the average person barely has time to see his/her family, work out, read a book, go to the movies, have a hobby, etc. And if we are consistent with the metrics, it means that we only have 5% of the energy of the day to do the things we love on those 1.2 hours that left of the day.  It does not sound fair at all, does it?

Building your career


Building your career

How can we choose the right career in life?Are we too young or too old to choose/change a career path? One of the causes of dissatisfaction in life is the job that we choose to do every day. I used to believe that once you choose your study field you will be stuck in one domain for life. This is the worst thought people can ever have regarding careers. I recently had the opportunity to work with a young intern in the company and he pointed out a few times that he wasn’t really sure of what he would do next. He wondered many times if he would really like to make a living on the field he was developing -which was consulting services. I thought: “this is completely normal, he is so young”. I know I am not working in the field I used to work during my first internship. When we are young and we hit our first job experience, we often have the feeling of being lost and we are not so clear about the future.

Personal – work balance: Is it time to redirect my career?

Reconciling a better professional and personal life resembles us to a mountain too big to climb and at the same time, satisfy the needs that must be met. However, doing this, could be a real investment to long term if is carefully planned.

Now, when should we take this initiative? Possibly, when the idea of a calmer life starts to manifest in our minds or when the lack of balance between professional and personal life generates stress added to our jobs or family. A change at the professional level may be a way to redesign our life and make it more fulfilling and rewarding.

Most of the time, when the transition pathway identified is completely consistent with the personal and professional needs (even if you work is so hard), the stress is completely different, at least the perception is different. In other words, the obsession for work decreases, and therefore, we dispose more of our time and energy for the personal sphere.

In previous articles, we have talked about the importance of our decisions in our career building and we have reflex ourselves with affirmations such as: “I am very old (or very young) to change my career”

This time, I would like share you 3 tips that will help you in redirect your career in order to achieve a more balanced personal life:

1 – Check your drivers.

If the search of the balance between the professional and personal life is the only driver of change, then we can ensure that we have taken important steps forward. I say this because in order to successfully achieve change, it is essential that the new choice meets with all levels of your needs: environmental, behavioral, relational, in terms of capabilities, tasks, beliefs, values, needs, etc. This will ensure that the wish for change is real.

2- Accepts the loss of the past condition to increase your self-esteem.

Once we get certain hierarchical level within a company, for example, surely change will imply that the level of responsibilities decreases. This means, the acceptance of the loss of a status. For many of us, this condition is fundamental: we think that we need recognition of our accomplishments to feel ourselves valuable; this is just a reflection of a fragile self-esteem. As a result, the fear of the loss of this external recognition becomes an obstacle to change. On the contrary, to think that we will gain a balanced life, the internal recognition and the emotional inputs will be our self-esteem allies.

3 – Accept the loss of money by the well-being gain.

Another direct consequence of the career transition is the financial loss. However, we have to take into account that this well-being has a cost. The fall in revenues could be compensated by the benefits in terms of personal and family well-being.  Well, we have the key for doing a “temporary” loss if  we focus our efforts in some activity that redeems us in a economical well-being to medium or log term.

In recent years the world has changed and the professional transition is no longer a simply change of company. Any professional transition is a change that can be, either to move forward in our career, or perhaps –even more times that we can imagine- to disrupt what we used to do and to start something completely different. It is also an opportunity to learn, undertake new projects, and why not, to risk!.

Redirect our career is change, life itself is change, and many times change is an opportunity to improve ourselves.

Read the traffic lights on your career path


How to read the traffic lights on your career path

Traffic lights were first established in 1868 in London and their main function is to send a signal that indicates whether you are allowed to proceed through the intersection on or not. Anyone able to walk and drive on the streets should understand how traffic lights work.  Regardless of the country where you live and the possible variations, traffic light rules are pretty much standard all over the world: green means “go”, amber (yellow) means “precaution” and red means “stop”. If we decided to take a ride on your career path, would you say that you know how to read the signs?

Red means that you need to change your career now! 

When you “have to” go to work, you feel like it does not make any sense to spend the day there and you dream about winning the lottery  to not have to set foot in your job ever again, well that definitely means that you need to change your job, and even consider a career redirection now. Pay attention to the signals! I know it’s not easy to make changes, but if you are familiar with these feelings you should really consider paying attention to the STOP sign and evaluate the next steps on your career path.

Here are a few signals (red) that will help you identify how bad the situation is: you are not giving 100% to your tasks, you make lots of mistakes, you feel tired and even angry at the end of the day, you get sick very often, you are wishing for the Fridays and cursing the Mondays, you are expecting to get extremely well paid for what you do (which by the way will not be the case most of the time), all you do is complain and criticize everything, you do not feel there is anything to be grateful for.

Amber (Yellow) means that you are in your comfort zone

When you go and leave your job every day at the same time, you only do the tasks that you know you are able to do and you often think “it could be worse, other people don’t have a job at all”- I think you are in your comfort zone. The amber light indicates that you can go on but you have to be cautious. Staying in your comfort zone means that you are doing what you can do, instead of doing what you love to do. You are not inspired and you need external motivation to get up to go to work and make it through the day. In the long run this behavior leads to deception, unhappiness and sometimes anger.

How can you tell that you are parked in the comfort zone?: You have a hard time  waking  up in the morning, you do your tasks well but you do only what’s required, you think about making a career from your passion but then you think that’s only for very talented people, you eagerly expect the yearly salary raise (if any), you complain regularly with friends and family but when asked what are you going to do about it you say “nothing, I want to stay here a couple more years to get more experience, it’s a good company, it’s good for my CV”.

Green means that you have an inspiring career

When you feel that you have a purpose, that your cause is even bigger than you and that what you do is aligned with your values it means that you have an inspiring career. When you do something that is aligned with who you are and what’s most important to you, you don’t need external motivation (like a salary), you are inspired from within.

Here are some of the signals (green lights) that indicate that you are truly inspired: You feel energized, you can’t wait to start the day, you often think about how you can be better at what you do, you are serving others and you love it, you help others succeed as well, you want to keep reading and learning about what you do, you dare to take on new challenges, you are grateful and you inspire others.


Are you reading your traffic lights correctly? What are the next steps you will take on your career path? You can leave your comments below.

If you are considering a change of direction I do recommend you to check at our coaching programs on career transition and contact us. Helping others to build an inspiring career is what we do best!


Ultimate keys of success


Ultimate keys of success

Time is a wonderful gift that we have all received. Every person alive has time. Is the way we choose to spend it what makes us have different results from each other. One of the things that I have been told very often is that I am not a very patient person. I am one those who like to have everything done right away, who dreams about something and wants to see it materialized in the next minute. I am not good at all at waiting, and wasting time freaks me out. But living abroad, meeting people from all over the world, working on my own personal development and living tons of different experiences made me realize how wrong I am about “timing” sometimes and made me understand what are the real keys of success.

Let’s remove the labels that categorize us and develop our potential


One of the things that I enjoy most of my work is the diversity of profiles, personalities and talents that I have the pleasure to find every day. I grow with each client, by expanding my mind, and I understand that in front of me there is an extraordinary person. The funny thing is that I always find something about myself in each person I know, even though at the beginning I thought we were completely different.

This makes me think: How many times have we prejudged others? How many times in our life are we being judged by our gender, our nationality or our religion? One of the biggest problems facing the world today is the lack of respect and tolerance among human beings. But even worse than that is the fact that most people do not even take the time to think about how true those stereotypes and categories are. We only use them to label people before we know who they are.

At what point do we begin to label ourselves and fail to understand that we are unique people with a unique talent and we have a value to add to the world?

How to develop your maximum potential? Be authentic, you are not a label!

I do not know who is reading this article, but I’m sure you can feel familiar with what I say, because we humans like to generalize. Aha, this is a generalization! Thanks to having studied social psychology, I understand that there are certain behaviors and values ​​that we can associate with a given group, based on age, gender, religion, culture, generation and other criteria.

I can agree that there are certain trends that describe the behavior of people belonging to a group. Such as the “Y” generation, or millennials (born between 1980 and 2000) and their need for autonomy, rejection of a certain hierarchy in the companies, which creates difficulties to keep a fixed job. Another example is cultures. For many, being Latin means being improvised and eating spicy food, Germans are associated with extreme order and discipline, Americans are superficial and consuming, Chinese seem to be extremely hardworking and even easy to exploit, the French are closed-minded, the Italians are loud and cook well, etc. But, is this 100% true? In my case, for example, one of the categories in which they have placed me are the following: Latin, female, immigrant, foreign, millennial, too young and others, each with its interpretation and limits. Now I laugh, but at some point I let myself believe that those labels represented who I was and therefore I limited my range of action and my goals.

Labels, categories and stereotypes are absolutely limiting. I think we can easily get lost in generalizations, paradigms and the opinion of other people. You are not a “category”. You have talents, skills, values ​​and you are someone different from any other person you know. Therefore, you have a value to add to your community, your country, and the world. This value will be higher if you decide to be authentic. The more we stick to group behaviors and labels, the less we explore our capabilities, and our potential, so we will be less likely to offer the world what it needs most now.


How to strengthen teams and retain talent? Companies, focus on the person, not on their “category”

The problem of prejudices, stereotypes and the use of categories is that we forget that we should focus on individuals. We forget who the person is behind that label and tend to generalize the behaviors, since, as individuals, we also follow the behavior of the “group” to which we belong.

Many companies now face the problem of millennials, which do not seem to stay in a job for more than 6 months, and do not accept the “rules” of the company. Right, it’s a problem! But the problem is not solved by looking for a consultant who explains the sociology of the “Y” generation and how to understand everyone who carries this label. The problem will be solved the day companies focus on the person, understand their values ​​and motivational factors and understand that they can be leaders in their own area, doing what they are best at. And this principle is valid for any generation, label or category.

The more I work with people of different generations, nationalities, genres and cultures, the more I reaffirm my philosophy:

“Be authentic, discover your talents, awaken your unique potential…only then you will find meaning and purpose in your personal and professional life.”

Let’s eliminate the labels that limit our thinking and promote tolerance and respect for others and for ourselves.

How to succeed your job application



How to succeed your job application

Are you looking for a new job? Are you perhaps considering a change of careerWhatever your case may be, if you are reading this article is because you are in the tedious process of applying for a job. You know how it is, it gets repetitive, you have to fill in many application forms, cover letters customized according to the company, you set up alerts in a few job boards, you spend hours in front of the PC and then you reach the point of despair and you start applying to every job post you come across.

Empathy and mirror neurons

For a long time science has tried to explain the extraordinary human capacity to understand what others feel or think, understand the intentions of others and how to react appropriately to others reactions.  The discovery of a brain system called “mirror neurons” revolutionized this theory. These neurons are activated when we perceive emotions or actions of others, providing the brain with the same information which generates our own emotions or actions.  We know what is feeling someone who laughs because, by seeing him, the same areas of the brain that are involved when we laugh are activated. In the same way, it is probable that observing a spider going up the arm of someone the situation does not make us indifferent.

But, what is empathy?

Empathy can be defined as that which helps us to exercise a good influence on the emotions of others, It allows us to feel others who we are in the same “tuning”. Arises as a conscious and unconscious signals, that can be very subtle or very obvious, causing that a person “like” other, whether known or not. It is certainly the key to create successful relationships, generating well-being in any area of our life.

Some people are emphatic naturally, but others are not. The last ones have a lower ability to activate their mirror neurons, they fail to connect with each other and therefore, the interaction is uncomfortable because they don’t know how to connect naturally with others. People who define themselves as little emphatic or not sociable, have not developed this skill and their own belief system has imposed them ideas such as: “I can not be sociable”,it is hard to be empathetic“, “I do not like socializing”, etc.; when we repeat ourselves this, we are unconsciously training our brains to be exactly as we do not want to be.

How do influence mirror neurons to empathy?

There is an important link between mirror neurons and empathy. Thanks to our powerful ability of imagination, we can understand the mental states of others by simulating them in our brain and feeling the same thing, this is called imitation. Different regions of the brain that contain these particular neurons, are connected with emotions (limbic system), which in turn is correlated to empathy. Meaning that, the more active are these regions, the more emphatic we are. Therefore, we have a greater propensity to create friendly links with others.

How can we develop our empathy?

Now we know that our level of empathy can be increased and -by having full knowledge of our physiology- we can consciously exercise this capability to use it in a natural way.

  • Imitation is one of the most effective techniques. To imitate a person than seems empathetic, we are exercising our mirror neurons and, at the same time, modeling our ability to empathize.
  • Listen with an open mind and without prejudices: pay attention to verbal, body language, tone of voice and facial expressions; in the feelings and reactions of the other. This allows expressing freely to grasp their feelings.
  • Develop the ability to identify what makes the other feeling rewarded in relation to its qualities or achievements, with this you capture his/her attention and, as a result, a better communication.
  • Before giving your opinion on a subject, make sure to have enough information and that the other person has told you everything he wanted to and that you’ve heard and interpreted correctly, both conscious and unconscious as well as the verbal and non-verbal message.
  • Keep a good predisposition to accept the differences you have with others, be tolerant and practice patience, in this sense, take care about your reaction in order to avoid transmitting a negative message. We don’t want the other person’s neurons to perceive this as unpleasant.

It is essential to educate our empathy and encourage the education of our children in this area. To put ourselves in the place of the others to understand what they need, should be a subject in any primary school. Knowing that we can apply this behavior in the personal field and also in the work environment throughout our entire life, surely, we will have the capacity to not only make healthy and fulfilling relationships, but also develop a path of success in all areas of our life.