Focus your energy on the right career

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Focus your energy on the right career

Did you know that most people spend only 5% of their time doing something they actually love! The average person spends 60% of the day working (which is why is essential to choose the right career), 20% sleeping, another 15% commuting and only 5% doing something they actually love. That 5% means everything for some people, especially for those who do not enjoy what they do for living. For many people it means not seeing their children growing up, not been able to keep healthy habits, not sharing with friends and family and in general not enjoying life.

These frightening statistics show that the average person barely has time to see his/her family, work out, read a book, go to the movies, have a hobby, etc. And if we are consistent with the metrics, it means that we only have 5% of the energy of the day to do the things we love on those 1.2 hours that left of the day.  It does not sound fair at all, does it?

Ultimate keys of success

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Ultimate keys of success

Time is a wonderful gift that we have all received. Every person alive has time. Is the way we choose to spend it what makes us have different results from each other. One of the things that I have been told very often is that I am not a very patient person. I am one those who like to have everything done right away, who dreams about something and wants to see it materialized in the next minute. I am not good at all at waiting, and wasting time freaks me out. But living abroad, meeting people from all over the world, working on my own personal development and living tons of different experiences made me realize how wrong I am about “timing” sometimes and made me understand what are the real keys of success.

Let’s remove the labels that categorize us and develop our potential

 

One of the things that I enjoy most of my work is the diversity of profiles, personalities and talents that I have the pleasure to find every day. I grow with each client, by expanding my mind, and I understand that in front of me there is an extraordinary person. The funny thing is that I always find something about myself in each person I know, even though at the beginning I thought we were completely different.

This makes me think: How many times have we prejudged others? How many times in our life are we being judged by our gender, our nationality or our religion? One of the biggest problems facing the world today is the lack of respect and tolerance among human beings. But even worse than that is the fact that most people do not even take the time to think about how true those stereotypes and categories are. We only use them to label people before we know who they are.

At what point do we begin to label ourselves and fail to understand that we are unique people with a unique talent and we have a value to add to the world?

How to develop your maximum potential? Be authentic, you are not a label!

I do not know who is reading this article, but I’m sure you can feel familiar with what I say, because we humans like to generalize. Aha, this is a generalization! Thanks to having studied social psychology, I understand that there are certain behaviors and values ​​that we can associate with a given group, based on age, gender, religion, culture, generation and other criteria.

I can agree that there are certain trends that describe the behavior of people belonging to a group. Such as the “Y” generation, or millennials (born between 1980 and 2000) and their need for autonomy, rejection of a certain hierarchy in the companies, which creates difficulties to keep a fixed job. Another example is cultures. For many, being Latin means being improvised and eating spicy food, Germans are associated with extreme order and discipline, Americans are superficial and consuming, Chinese seem to be extremely hardworking and even easy to exploit, the French are closed-minded, the Italians are loud and cook well, etc. But, is this 100% true? In my case, for example, one of the categories in which they have placed me are the following: Latin, female, immigrant, foreign, millennial, too young and others, each with its interpretation and limits. Now I laugh, but at some point I let myself believe that those labels represented who I was and therefore I limited my range of action and my goals.

Labels, categories and stereotypes are absolutely limiting. I think we can easily get lost in generalizations, paradigms and the opinion of other people. You are not a “category”. You have talents, skills, values ​​and you are someone different from any other person you know. Therefore, you have a value to add to your community, your country, and the world. This value will be higher if you decide to be authentic. The more we stick to group behaviors and labels, the less we explore our capabilities, and our potential, so we will be less likely to offer the world what it needs most now.

 

How to strengthen teams and retain talent? Companies, focus on the person, not on their “category”

The problem of prejudices, stereotypes and the use of categories is that we forget that we should focus on individuals. We forget who the person is behind that label and tend to generalize the behaviors, since, as individuals, we also follow the behavior of the “group” to which we belong.

Many companies now face the problem of millennials, which do not seem to stay in a job for more than 6 months, and do not accept the “rules” of the company. Right, it’s a problem! But the problem is not solved by looking for a consultant who explains the sociology of the “Y” generation and how to understand everyone who carries this label. The problem will be solved the day companies focus on the person, understand their values ​​and motivational factors and understand that they can be leaders in their own area, doing what they are best at. And this principle is valid for any generation, label or category.

The more I work with people of different generations, nationalities, genres and cultures, the more I reaffirm my philosophy:

“Be authentic, discover your talents, awaken your unique potential…only then you will find meaning and purpose in your personal and professional life.”

Let’s eliminate the labels that limit our thinking and promote tolerance and respect for others and for ourselves.

Empathy and mirror neurons

For a long time science has tried to explain the extraordinary human capacity to understand what others feel or think, understand the intentions of others and how to react appropriately to others reactions.  The discovery of a brain system called “mirror neurons” revolutionized this theory. These neurons are activated when we perceive emotions or actions of others, providing the brain with the same information which generates our own emotions or actions.  We know what is feeling someone who laughs because, by seeing him, the same areas of the brain that are involved when we laugh are activated. In the same way, it is probable that observing a spider going up the arm of someone the situation does not make us indifferent.

But, what is empathy?

Empathy can be defined as that which helps us to exercise a good influence on the emotions of others, It allows us to feel others who we are in the same “tuning”. Arises as a conscious and unconscious signals, that can be very subtle or very obvious, causing that a person “like” other, whether known or not. It is certainly the key to create successful relationships, generating well-being in any area of our life.

Some people are emphatic naturally, but others are not. The last ones have a lower ability to activate their mirror neurons, they fail to connect with each other and therefore, the interaction is uncomfortable because they don’t know how to connect naturally with others. People who define themselves as little emphatic or not sociable, have not developed this skill and their own belief system has imposed them ideas such as: “I can not be sociable”,it is hard to be empathetic“, “I do not like socializing”, etc.; when we repeat ourselves this, we are unconsciously training our brains to be exactly as we do not want to be.

How do influence mirror neurons to empathy?

There is an important link between mirror neurons and empathy. Thanks to our powerful ability of imagination, we can understand the mental states of others by simulating them in our brain and feeling the same thing, this is called imitation. Different regions of the brain that contain these particular neurons, are connected with emotions (limbic system), which in turn is correlated to empathy. Meaning that, the more active are these regions, the more emphatic we are. Therefore, we have a greater propensity to create friendly links with others.

How can we develop our empathy?

Now we know that our level of empathy can be increased and -by having full knowledge of our physiology- we can consciously exercise this capability to use it in a natural way.

  • Imitation is one of the most effective techniques. To imitate a person than seems empathetic, we are exercising our mirror neurons and, at the same time, modeling our ability to empathize.
  • Listen with an open mind and without prejudices: pay attention to verbal, body language, tone of voice and facial expressions; in the feelings and reactions of the other. This allows expressing freely to grasp their feelings.
  • Develop the ability to identify what makes the other feeling rewarded in relation to its qualities or achievements, with this you capture his/her attention and, as a result, a better communication.
  • Before giving your opinion on a subject, make sure to have enough information and that the other person has told you everything he wanted to and that you’ve heard and interpreted correctly, both conscious and unconscious as well as the verbal and non-verbal message.
  • Keep a good predisposition to accept the differences you have with others, be tolerant and practice patience, in this sense, take care about your reaction in order to avoid transmitting a negative message. We don’t want the other person’s neurons to perceive this as unpleasant.

It is essential to educate our empathy and encourage the education of our children in this area. To put ourselves in the place of the others to understand what they need, should be a subject in any primary school. Knowing that we can apply this behavior in the personal field and also in the work environment throughout our entire life, surely, we will have the capacity to not only make healthy and fulfilling relationships, but also develop a path of success in all areas of our life.

Positive thinking and personal development

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How positive thinking is related to personal development?

Positive thinking is the best practice that we can do when it comes to personal development and achievement. After 20 years of research and investigating the lives of the millionaires in America, Napoleon Hill reached to this conclusion: “We become what we think about most of the time”. There are many habits that the most successful people in the world apply to ensure their success, but certainly the most important one is having a positive thinking.